Ten Signs of an Older Mum
I gave birth to Siena just five days short of my 42nd birthday. I’m quite proud of that, in spite of the recent reports advising women not to put off having children. The fact is I never put off having a second child. My first daughter, Grace was born in 2005 when I was 34. When I was 37 we started trying again. Months went by and nothing happened. Eventually we were told that it was highly unlikely that we would conceive again. We were upset (very upset), but eventually we picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off and concentrated on our beautiful daughter.
Fast forward a few years and I was feeling really under the weather, thinking it was gall bladder problems I tried to ignore how I felt. On one particular day I felt so bad, I decided I was going to visit the doctor. For some reason I thought to do a pregnancy test just to rule it out. When that positive test came up I swore because I was so shocked! That was over 2 years ago and each day since Siena arrived has been a lot of fun. It came to me that being a mum at nearly 44 is quite different to being a mum at 34 and I thought I would compile a fun list for Friday.
You know you are an older mum when….
1. You are waiting for a scan and another mum-to-be arrives. She gives her date of birth and you realise that not only are you only enough to be HER mother, at a push you could be her grandmother!
2. You have to put your reading glasses on to cut your daughter’s nails
3. People ask you if you are going to be having any more children and you are torn between feeling flattered and wanting to say ‘Do you know how old I am?’ in an indignant tone
4. Mums in their twenties say are tired, you think how tired you feel and the fact you are 20 years older. They don’t even know what tired is!
5. Your periods don’t return after giving birth. When you were younger you would be panic-stricken that you were pregnant again. As an older mum you just resign yourself to the onset of the menopause.
6. Doctors appointments are a mix of nappy rash and childhood illness diagnoses and stomach ulcer and arthritis medication.
7. You aren’t as concerned with getting your figure back as someone in their twenties, as a forties mum you are mature and less concerned about appearance. Until you catch a glimpse of a matronly middle aged woman standing next to your child in a shop window and immediately vow to look to like Kate Middleton by the end of the month.
8. You are less than convinced that a few pelvic floor exercises are going to save you (at your age, sighs) and resolve to give up laughing, zumba and coughing for the rest of your life.
9. You are pleased that you get acne as a result of the hormone changes, assuming that people will think you are younger than you are. The fact is now you just look not only wrinkly, but also spotty!
10. You don’t know how to dress. Striking the balance between mutton and lamb is hard. One day you are channelling your inner Kim Kardashian, the next you look like Mrs Doubtfire.
In truth though, I’m enjoying being an ‘older’ mum, the hardest part is actually dealing with the 10 year old wannabe second mum (Grace) who has suddenly become an authority on parenting. She makes me feel like every day is an OFSTED inspection!